I am looking for an “advisor” Peter. I’ve already tried to get him to call several advisors on Ingenio, but each time they have been unavailable. I was surfing Niteflirt this morning and came across your webpage, and got the idea of having him call a Niteflirt advisor. Peter is a chronic masturbator and has been since he was teenager. Believe me, I know, because I had to live in the same house with him. He is three years younger than me. He was always smuggling dirty magazines into the house, and when my mother would find them and throw them away he would steal my lingerie and masturbate on that!He cheated on his wife, Lisa, until she divorced him last year. Then, when he lost his job and his company car, and his credit card was maxed out, she took pity on him and let him move into her garage apartment and work for her taking care of the house, pool and lawn.
Currently, he is working for room and board, and she is making monthly payments on his credit card.Over the past nine months, Lisa has become intimate with Peter again. This is a good thing, as I want Peter there with Lisa, and not trying to come to mother and me for help. However, Lisa continues to date other men and pursue a single lifestyle. She is now involved in a Program for women with men who are sexually addicted. This Program advocates “focusing” a man’s sexual attention by controlling and limiting the frequency of his orgasms to no more than one a week. Apparently, this has worked extremely well for her, and it has made Peter much more eager to focussed on following her instructions about the yard, the pool, and house, in order to “earn” his weekly reward.
Recently however, she discovered that he has been stealing her lingerie catalogs and hiding them in his apartment to masturbate over, thereby “cheating” the Program by having more weekly orgasms than the Program permits. Since she’s at her wit’s end with him, she called me about his problem and I filled her in on his past history. My self and other family members are afraid that she will kick him out eventually and he will come to us looking for a place to stay. We don’t need this, and we have encouraged Lisa to do everything to keep him there with her. As a result, back in the Fall, we recommended that Lisa buy a male chastity device to get his masturbation habit under control. So far it seems to be working, but he has his doubts about all this. I’ve tried to talk with him, but he is not willing to discuss this with me. What we need is an “Advisor” who can talk with Peter frequently, and do the following:
1) Listen to him and let him blow off steam.
2) Remind him that HE has a problem (his penis).
3) Remind him that it is a problem that HE cannot control himself.
4) Tell him that in order for his problem (his penis) to be under control that SOMEONE ELSE is going to have to control it FOR HIM.
5) That someone needs to be strong, confident woman. And right now that someone is LISA.
6) Reassure him that the use of a Male Chastity Device is a VERY COMMON, VERY ACCEPTABLE method of controlling problems like his. Reassure him that many happy couples, both married and engaged couples, have bought “thousands and thousands” of male chastity devices as a means of making sure that men don’t use their penises irresponsibly and inappropriately.
7) Tell him how lucky he is to be back with his ex-wife Lisa, and that the arrangement she has devised at this point is a very good one for him. 
Tell him that as a man who has demonstrated repeatedly since childhood that he cannot control his own penis, that he NEEDS Lisa to control it for him.Peter does not have a computer and does not know anything about Niteflirt. If you are interested in taking this on as a “project,” do not let him know that you do phone sex. Take the position of an advisor for “male sexual problems.”
Lisa has discovered that Peter responds well to a woman who takes a superior position in dealing with him. Lisa has successfully gotten Peter to admit the sexual inferiority of the male gender. You can feel free to refer to his penis and his masturbation habit as “disgusting,” as this seems to get him to readily admit his sexual weaknesses.
Let me know if you are willing to speak with him. Initially, sessions with him should last at least an hour or so.
Katrina
How could I not talk to this guy obviously his life had nearly collapsed all around him because he has no cock control. Thank god for Lisa being such a good sport and taking him back. He’s so lucky but I don’t get the sense that he realizes that when I talk to him. Just like all other addicts he’s very selfish and things about his cock and cumming first and Lisa and everyone else second. I know that sounds bad but he does love her. All addicts love the people in their life it’s just that there is something that they love a little more.
We spoke for over an hour I think I was able to help Peter see how messed up some of his thinking is. It’s amazing thing to do, holding up a mirror to someone so they can really see them selves for what they are. He’s going to need a lot more work. Lisa sounds like such a sweetheart I think she has been unknowing indulging him too much. Hopefully my report will put an end to that. I’ll share the report with you, Katrina has agreed to sharing this information because she knows it will help others. Guys just remember your stroking problem is never the secret you think it is. Has anyone in your family had to write a letter like this?
13 February 2008
Hi, Katrina
I’m so glad that you got Peter to phone me, he really does need help. He’s a charming man and very intelligent. However, this demands the strictest of controls placed on him. He just simply can not be trusted with his dick ever. Unfortunately this will always be the case for him. His sexual addiction is extreme it’s hard for a normal person to understand. What he’s comparable to is a drug attic. It’s not a pretty to imagine in that way but for all intents and purposes this is how it is.
It’s actually easier for a drug addict then it is for Peter, drug addicts can just give up drugs, sexuality is part of the make up of his brain chemistry. Because of this and because Peter is highly intelligent all precautions have to be taken to make sure he is staying chaste.
From what I understand, from him, he’s getting one orgasm, two therapeutic domination sessions and one orgasm a week. I feel this is way too much stimulation for him. I recommend that he has one orgasm a week, and therapeutic domination session. Prostate milking should only be done when his weekly orgasm is denied because of bad behaviour. It’s good for him to have blue balls and discomfort while he’s pleasing Lisa. It reminds him to be a selfless lover.
That’s another very important thing to mention like all addicts I can not convey enough how incredibly selfish Peter is, all he thinks about is being able to come. That is the most important thing to him. Yes he loves Lisa, just like how a drunk may love his wife but still continues on with the self destructive behaviour. If Peter did not have such great family support I would predict his future to be very grim indeed.
All though I do keep some confidences that Peter tells me I do have to report to you any slips he has. And he has had several—first of all he has hid some lingerie catalogues in a living room cabinet the same cabinet that the home & garden magazines are kept. The other extremely serious issue is that he has made up a 3 key for his cb 3000 he has hidden that under a drawer in a little table in his apartment.
He has been masturbating twice a week a long with his two milkings, one orgasm and two therapeutic training sessions. Our little Peter has been very much indulged! I can not emphasize enough that the cb 3000 is not recommended to men that have a smaller then average sized penis. For a 3.5 inch dick I strongly recommend the http://www.clubfem.com/mcd1.htm it’s inescapable with out the Lady knowing. I told him about it, and he’s very resistant to it for some reason. Probably because he knows it’s inescapable.
It seems like Lisa is doing a great job, but I think she needs to make him work harder, and is unknowingly indulging him. I also recommend to Lisa that she puts hidden cameras in his garage apartment to monitor his actions. She might want to pay a service that can show up just to check up on him when he’s not expecting it. Really I think it’s great that he does not have a car and can’t go anywhere by himself I don’t if he’ll ever be able to handle that type of freedom with out getting into trouble. I’m sure this is a lot to take in. I want to applaud your family for being so caring and proactive in dealing with Peter’s problem. It’s a serious one but if Peter can stay honest, with Lisa and Me he can continue to become more compliable and be a better partner to Lisa, if she wants him.
I would like to continue to have weekly meetings with Peter so that I can monitor his progress.
Sincerely,
Trinity
This is so common with these weak dicked men. They really do need to give up control of there pathetic cocks. I have a lot more I could say about this case that is demeaning to Peter, but I’ll be profession and just say Peter is a very very lucky man. Not many woman would take back a cheating husband that only had a three inch dick.
You might think I always say no– that’s not the case sometimes I say yes. Just depends on the context, it’s a lot harder to get your dick in trouble if you have a Princess in control of it.
